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adorjan

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I've encountered a lot of social scenes that seem to be permanently stuck in a "cringe-finding and amplifying state". Essentially the Hungry Ghost of "self-enhancement by engaging in a favorable, downward social comparison". It might even be the default in internet culture. But…

We love ‘cringe’ because it allows us, for a brief moment, to rise above someone who is trying to look good and doesn't realize that they are messing up and looking bad. What does it mean for something to be cringeworthy? We’re all just too familiar with this feeling where it’s…



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Collecting open secrets I think people are endlessly fascinating. Sometimes you meet a person and they have such an interesting or strange life that you wonder how it could be possible. But then you spend more time with them and then you figure out exactly why things are the way…


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Erich Fromm writing about the rise of the 'marketing character' back in 1976. My word, was he on the money.

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Among other things this shows that the extreme anxiety of all the zillennials I know around turning 30 is actually an entirely rational reflection of the incentive system. The whole thing where people think Bladee needs to "pack it up, unc" because he is 30 is this internalized

.@rabois on the most important lesson he learned from Peter Thiel: You can’t hire anybody over 30. “Peter might not say it exactly the same way today, but basically, what he was trying to say is this: by the time you’re 30, everyone on the planet knows how to assess you pretty…



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How Antidepressants Work A neuropsychological story featuring emotional processing shifts, cognitive flexibility, neuroticism, and emotional blunting psychiatrymargins.com/p/how-antidepr…


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Anthems for a Forty-Five Year Old Man

Buy that DVD, buy that VHS, buy that Vinyl, buy that cassette. Bring back media libraries



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Considering the state of Alzheimer's research right now, it's a great time to re-read what was written about it just a few years ago. Keep in the back of your mind all the massive recent malfeasance, and read...


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🧵I’m a huge fan of Neville Symington’s writings on narcissism. To him, there is no clean delineation between those who struggle with narcissism and those who don’t. Of course there is a continuum of disturbance; but it is, to some degree, a disturbance which haunts us all.


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The tricky thing about healing our narcissistic parts is that it means giving up the redemption fantasies that, for most of our lives, may have served as our strongest defences against depression.


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Read a bit of Intermezzo and in my opinion, it continues to be the Sally Rooney thing: very deftly interested in the gap between the concreteness of words we use to communicate desires whose actuality those words fail to adequately express.


Yes, it's a kind of ham-fisted and garish appeal to big Other

Oh I just figured out why LinkedIn-style posting turns me off so much. It's because it feels like the person isn't talking directly to me but rather appealing to some floating imaginary authority figure for approval or validation that what they're doing is…



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It’s not the high IQ, it’s the “intellectualism.” Many high IQ men are just normal everyday guys, you just don’t realize they’re really smart because it’s not some major part of their identity they feel the need to lead with. Identifying heavily with your inborn intelligence is…

I love high IQ men but unfortunately they all seem to either be socially inept or manipulative psychopaths



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“Our sexuality endangers us because it turns us toward others, and that very exposure of appetite makes us vulnerable. (When it comes to appetite, all exposure is experienced as over-exposure.) All animals suffer from where their appetites lead them. We reach out to others for…


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honestly a simple way you can cut down your cognitive and karmic load is to stop judging people for harmless idiosyncracies that you don't share/you perceive as low status wiccans, furries, bronies, whatever


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